We all know that keeping a secret can be detrimental to your health.
According to Gina Roberts-Grey, these include stress, hypertension, digestive problems, insomnia, weight issues, reduced immunity, mood swings and depression.
Neuroscientists have also discovered that within the human brain the cingulate cortex is wired to tell the truth. When this is denied by keeping silent, the stress hormone cortisol is produced, which puts the body into fight or flight mode.
The bigger the secret the more impact it has on health.
Michael Sleplan, a prominent psychologist, states that 97% of people confess to having a secret and people on average have 13 secrets. A secret is defined as ‘A piece of information that is only known to one person or a few people and should not be told to others.’ Cambridge Dictionary.
In my book, I Am NOT A Dirty Bitch, I explain that apart from three people; my mother, auntie, and a church youth worker I kept my childhood abuse a secret. I often wonder if my life would have been different if I had been able to share my secret with someone who would have supported me. My mother’s reaction was to call me a dirty bitch and did nothing to stop it, my aunt didn’t believe me and the youth worker betrayed my trust and told others.
Since the publication of my book many individuals have shared with me that they had been sexually abused as a child and the majority of them told me that I was the first person they had told. They had lived with their secret along with shame and pain.
I suppose it is understandable that for me secrets are generally viewed in a negative way as they conjure up thoughts of shame and guilt, However, over time, I’ve learnt that sharing some secrets can have a positive effect.
In 2006 Rhoda Byrne released a film entitled The Secret. She had discovered the secret of the Law of Attraction and believes that whatever you focus attention on becomes the reality in your life. I have used the Law of Attraction for many different projects from vision boards to daily teachings. The following is an extract from The Secret Daily teachings
No one is more cherished in this world more than someone who lightens the burden of another
If you are living with a secret that is causing you anguish and pain, remember you always have a choice.
When I sign my book, I always write
True freedom is letting go of the past
That includes exposing dark secrets, they are always negative and can, as research shows, impact upon your health.
If you want to know more about letting go of the past with its secrets and moving on then please contact me.